A Dangerous Season

Spring is a magical time of year, birds are singing, barbecue are firing up and women are showing more skin. Let’s face it, it’s a dangerous time of year also. But, it’s dangerous year round, you say. Yes, but for the unattached, UN-involved and uncommitted have wandering eyes and minds..

Do you recall being passed everyday, on your way to or from work that female dressed like an Eskimo? Soon she will be wearing sun dresses and sandals, a short sun dress. You know, the kind that shows lots of legs.

If you were brave enough to ask what happened to the snow suit, after she told you how ridiculous you are for asking in 70 degree weather, she would likely say because she wants to get some sun. That is partly true, but only partially. She is now in competition mode. She is competing against all the other women for “eye balls”. Guys, she wants your eye balls watching her and, does not want to be made fun of by other women.

Gentlemen, be careful. While you are watching the movement of the designs on her dress, your wife, woman, mate or date is watching you. This could result in her getting offended and you getting SMACKED.

If you are going to look, either do it openly and boldly so you woman knows you are eye balling another woman. She might be the kind that may be willing to point out a few things you had not noticed.

Number two, do it on the sly. This technique is most often used by the committed and the married. It helps keep you, the eye ball-er, from getting into trouble with the MRS.

Number three is the safest by far. Don’t do it. This way if your sweetie ask did you see…, you can honestly say nope, should I have? This way you can learn a little more about the one you are with by how she describe the “other woman”.

Okay guys, its spring time and the fashion show has begun. Enjoy it and be respectful of her and yourself.

Is She For Real

New Day Dawning
New Day Dawning

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Gentlemen, sometimes you have to ask yourself a simple but, important question. “Why DOES the most attractive woman in the place want to talk to me?’

Okay, so you are six feet, two inches in height and weighing in at a modest two hundred twelve pounds of irresistible man meat. Or, like me, you may not fit that description. Either way, the question should cross your mind at least once, but will it. Or, instead, are you like the rest of us “average Joe’s”, caught off guard by some one of the opposite sex, knock down gorgeous, and able to choose practically any guy in the place, fixing her eye on you?

Just maybe she has seen something in you, un-noticed by you as an asset. Cheer up, chances are she might be for real. She may actually like what she seeS and wants a better and closer study of you. Unless you are as ugly as home made soap with the personality and attitude to match, you might be the most fortunate man in the world. Regardless of the reason, she has set her sites on you.

Advice Time

Just be your self. She was interested enough in you to allow some of her time, don’t waste it being a jerk or trying to be someone you are not. If you make this common mistake she will soon discover it and dump you. Remember: JUST BE YOU.


Trolling For Trouble


It’s easy to say, “I thought she was over 21”.


This statement is little value when you are facing statutory rape charges. The fact is either

you did not do your home work or simply decided you preferred the young, tender and

ignorant. Let’s make it crystal clear, you did not want a fully grown, mature and challenging

woman, you wanted a child. Jail can help clear your thinking.


Guys, when you’re out trolling for “fresh meat”, keep the above statement in mind. Just

because she looks 21, does not mean she is of legal age. Your are the one that will receive

punishment if she is under aged and engages in sexual activity. Raise your sights, it’s less



Teenage girls work at looking older than their true age. This is an art form that is practiced

practically from birth. Most girls invest hours changing clothes and checking their

appearance in the mirror and with their friends. If it does not appear to suggest the desired

effect, they try on something else. This is a type of playing “dress up”.


If you are wondering at what age it stops, it often never does. Many adult women continue to

engage in this game for decades to come. But as an adult woman, playing dress up would be

for reasons other then looking older. The reasons can range from the right look for a job

interview, the right look for going shopping, to a right look for a particular occasion location,

etc. And, that occasion could include going out on the town. This is where guys must beware.


It is no accident lights are low in nightclubs, they want patrons to see just well enough to order

the next drink, dancers to invite or be invited for the next dance, and those that feel inadequate,

feel a limited ability to blind in. If you select or are selected by a girl, that is not what you

expected, that is your fault. It’s not just the lighting.


One of the most common mistakes is being in “Too Much” of a hurry. Consider this, she has

danced with you much of the night and it looks like you may get lucky. If you are in too much

of a hurry to jump from the dance floor to the bedroom, you may discover later, you’ve jumped

from the frying pan into the fire. Slow down and save yourself from a SMACK later.


Understand something, Women Want To Be Talked To, not talked at. They like to be listened

to also. Take the time to let them talk and be interested in what they are saying. If it’s boring,

tell them and let them change the subject. She might get offended for a minute, but she may

thank you later for not letting her ramble on. However, the rambling is likely to re-occur.


Guys, always remember, it’s not all about you. What you make of it is what matters. If you treat

her the way you want to be treated, she may be interested in a second, third or even forth date.

It’s up to you to figure out if she she’s dangerous or delightful.


Players Beware – The Price May Be Higher Than You Think

You’ve survived High School and maybe even college, either way you’ve moved on into the

adult world of life. And now you think you are a player. Sorry guy but, if you think being

a player makes you a man, you are dead wrong. In fact, I will list a few things that does not

make you a man:

  • Being your babies daddy, but not its mothers husband.
  • Being the father of multiple babies by multiple women (not wife).
  • Being a girly fella and trying to keep it “DOWN LOW”.
  • Disrespecting your elders and anyone else.
  • Beating on women, etc.

These are just a few ways to get disqualified for “MAN HOOD”. If you are doing these things plus,

have made -JAIL- YOUR SECOND HOME, means you are “NOT A MAN”, you are just a big boy.

The “Big Boy Problem’” I will discuss in a later post. Are these fighting words? Yes they are, but

not for the reason  you think.

Players are playing a losers game. A player does not gain respect, love or admiration from their

victims and not much from his “peep’s”. Unfortunately, the player finds the term, “dog” as favorable.

Being called a “Dog” really means you are out for yourself and will hurt anyone getting in your

way. It also means any woman desiring a deep relationship, should run far and fast away from you.

Yes I know it’s fun and it makes you feel strong, powerful and in control. Sorry again, but the

truth is all of that is short lived. You’ll feel like your on top of the world until that next “Incredible

specimen of the female body” walks by or catches your eye.

As a former “Dog”. I’M gonna’ make it real clear and simple. If you continue to be a dog, act like a

dog, one day  you will find yourself cover with the flees of regret as pointed out above in my bullet

points. Now, man up and get productive in something more than making babies and doing time.


Oh Your Kidding, Males and Females Are Different

Let’s get something understood right up front, males, men and females, women, are different. They are made different. They usually look different. Most of the time they dress differently. And they think and act differently.

But if you choose, a man can try acting like, and being like a woman. And, a woman can pretend to be a man. In fact, society openly claims to be accepting of women having sex changes, which is a whole group of medical procedures, to become a man. And this is extended to men wanting to become women also. If you are not happy with the plumbing GOD gave you, it can now be changed.  However, society as a whole, really does not agree with the whole sex change, gender swapping “FADE“.

On this blog, “Smooch or Smack”, if you want to be a “gay guy” or “lesbian gal”, that is your choice, or problem. This blog is mainly for those of us fascinated with the opposite sex. Now, that’s not to say “SOS” won’t occasionally venture into those dangerous waters, but it will not be the norm.

So, if you think you can handle some straight talking, straight answering, which means if we can give, get or find you an answer we will, and do it without sounding like we just came off the Aircraft Carrier Trash Mouth – stick around and keep reading.

Boy, those last two paragraphs were a mouth full. But, we blog about building personal relationships that might last.

Here, we talk about boy getting girl and girl getting boy and the things that happen along the way. If you have questions or want to comment, please do so. By the way. I am not a brain squeezer, or shrink, nor any other king of social science professional. I am just a guy that has lived long enough to be able to offer help others. I hope they do not make the mistakes I made. Or, show you how to kill a relationship, beyond any hope of resurrection.  So, come on back, we’re just getting started.